Marriage/Couples
Turn your relationship into a successful relationship
Although many people seek therapy for a multitude of reasons, what appears to be consistently present in treatment (regardless of the reason for the initial visit) are the quality of a client's marriage/romantic relationship. In his experience, Tyvon Foster, LCSW has found that for many of his clients, romantic relationships are integral in each of their lives. In Tyvon Foster's work, he found that those who struggle in their relationships, tend to experience similar issues. The descriptions below provide details of common issues Tyvon has treated. As a result, each of these issues have come to represent Tyvon's clinical expertise.
Communication Issues
Often the couple has different communication styles, different perspectives and interpretations of the same experience, and understands the same words differently. With this issue, the couple experiences trouble with understanding the intended meaning in their communication. It feels as though two different languages are spoken between them. Part of the issue is due to making assumptions without clarification, or stating"what" is hurtful to them and not "why" it is. There is difficulty in expressing negative emotions in a healthy and constructive way that led to damaging emotional safety and trust. Sometimes there's a complete lack of transparency, a reluctance to be open, or a history of lies. For this couple, they feel as if there is a fundamental misalignment in personality.
Frequent and Intense Arguments
This couple constantly finds themselves in a continuous and seemingly unending cycle of arguments. There is a distinct presence of contempt and resentment in the relationship. It is often a result of either a difference in values, a constant dismissal of emotions and perspectives, a consistent disregard/neglect of needs, or feeling disrespected in general. The couple also finds that there is a lot of verbal aggression, criticism, and defensiveness in their arguments. Incessant blaming and denying responsibility are common here as well. Often, it feels like arguments start out of nowhere and escalates quickly; thus resulting in feeling like they have to walk on eggshells or completely shut down/withdraw. This couple wants to keep and improve their relationship, but cannot see how, as if it is impossible.
Distance/Disconnection
It feels as though there is a wall between the couple that seems immovable. Usually this happens when there is a breakdown in communication and frequent and intense arguments. This has led to a lack of intimacy and sex. The couple here feels as though there is a loss of attraction and friendship. There isn't a feeling of closeness due to a loss of trust, typically emotionally. Unresolved conflicts may have also caused this disconnection as there is difficulty with reconciling past pain. The couple here is motivated to repair and reconnect, but is uncertain how to begin.
Take the next step- Repair & Reconnect
Every marriage experiences a different mixture of issues within these descriptions. For that reason, Tyvon has developed a thorough assessment to determine the exact challenges each unique couple faces. With this assessment, Tyvon (with the collaboration of the unique couple) will develop strategies to overcome each challenge. If any of the above descriptions resonate with you, contact Tyvon for a free brief consultation to find out how his assessment can help your relationship today!